#13 My Body My Story 45 Over 45 - Lisa

In this spiritual episode, Lisa is telling her story of being raised as an adopted child and learning through her 4 children about love and connection, how to Love yourself and don’t expect other people to love you.

She also talks about how you can see people wearing life on their face and that

you can see how bitter people have been for most of their lives.

Her advice to younger women is to Embrace changes, to feel empowered and strong, accept your body, and, “…. yeah, ….. look after your teeth from an early age” – it’s the biggest one! 

INTERVIEW TRANSCRIPT (auto-generated): 

Hi, you are listening to My Body My Story podcast,

And now I'm sort of accepting my body thinking why didn't I do it 30 years ago.

This is the 45 or 45 chapter where we celebrate rule breakers and role models, the women who inspire us to live life our way and to show that sensuality, beauty, soul and true essence. Here we talk about what it's like to be 45 Plus, adjusting to the changes that come with time, and will listen to the stories of our participants. If you have an interesting story to share, we would love you to participate, you can email us on info@aleksandrawalker.com or visit our website, www. aleksandrawalker.com

Lisa, tell us about yourself.

I'm 53, mother of four. And my oldest is 34. And my youngest twin boys are 16. Yeah, still tied down with my twin boys. But the rest are making their own way around. Life.

It's quite a big difference in age. Twins.

I was married twice. Yeah, I think I've had a pretty hard life. I’ve been learning about love and love. Yes. I was I was adopted when I was a baby. And I think I've haven't felt a connection somehow through my life. And I think I'm feeling it now with my children. I'm actually learning to be that mum. Yeah. And dedication and everything.

Was there ever a connection with your parents who adopted you, or not quiet?

No, my mum died. My adopted mom died when she was six when I was 16. Yeah. And my dad, well, he sort of shut down after that. And wouldn't talk about mum very often. And say we sort of, we didn't express emotions, I guess. Yeah. Which was hard. But I think through life, you sort of all sort of comes together and makes crazy sense. Where you he raised? Yes. And and well, the father died last year. So that was really hard. He took his own life. And so that's been that's it's made me I have to step up now. That's it. That's that's what it is. I'm stepping up now. That's why I feel so dedicated. Yeah, because I'm the only one.

You're the only one. Oh, you're strong. Lisa, what are you most passionate about?

Living, living and trying to create, passionate about creating happy children.

something perhaps that wasn't exactly your childhood wasn't what you wanted, right? Or what?

Well, I think the childhood I had, you know, like, my mother. Well, this is what I found out through my life was that my mother tried to commit suicide with me while she was pregnant. So that was, you know, where's the love? So, yeah, I suppose we've all we'll start off with so much baggage, you know, so she's desperately trying to keep a man that she's in love with or a boy that she's in love with? Because she started very early in age having kids. And I guess I'm passionate about understanding that everyone has baggage and

that everyone deals with different…

..and you know, Knowing that you can accept so much more. Yeah. And passionate about not being hung up on things. I don't know if

that makes sense. Sort of getting away from the drama rather than being part of it or creating it, like dealing with it much better.

Yeah. Yeah. In a very understanding compassionate way. Life. Yeah. I don't like dramas anymore.

What is the biggest challenge you're experiencing at this age?

I guess the changes in myself my body. I'm noticing my mind likes.. I don't know there's so much that makes sense. But it's so basic. You know, life is so basic with just really,

people complicate it for no reason.

Absolutely.

Describe your biggest accomplishment.

My kids, I mean, if I can make them happy and everything, then that's going to be great. But I'm still here. I'm still breathing. That's right. That's, I think that's it's a hard job getting to this age.

And after everything you've been through, so he still going strong, and you are here for your kids.

Yeah. And I understand that more and more so strong now.

As you get older.

And you sort of don't know You don't take on the little stuff anymore. Yeah. Like it's, it's little stuff

you value things. Actually. You're worth value. You don’t Get stuck on little unimportant thing. That only comes with wisdom with age.

Totally. That's what I like at that age. Yeah, wisdom.

Wish we were wise at the age of 20.

I don't think it's supposed to work like that

It’s a to journey

then I think you know, I should be trying to do all the hard miles for my kids, so they don't have to do it.

Then they won’t learn.

It's true.

There'll be different people if they don't walk their own path.

Totally.

What advice would you give your 30 year old self?

Look up to your teeth? Your teeth.

So true. You know your teeth for a long time.

Good, simple, simple. Simplify it. Yeah, don't complicate it. Yes, that's it. Don't complicate it. And love yourself. And don't expect other people to love you. Be kind of yourself

so true. If you don't love yourself, how he How would you see others do or how would you recognise it or demand that if you don't do it for yourself?

I guess that's what I'm learning now. With today is Yeah, yeah. I don't mind myself now. That I never really liked myself all the way through. Yeah. And now I'm sort of accepting my body thinking why didn't I do it? 30 years ago

you weren't at that stage yet. You had to come to… What advice would you give younger women who will eventually undergo these changes?

Embrace them, cherish feel empowered feel strong. Lines of life

Lines of life, I like that one. So true, tells a story. Your own unique story

Absolutely. You can see how people wear life on their faces. And you know the older you get you know you can see how bitter people most of their life have been and stays there, that looks stays there.

That's right or you can see people who have lived a happy life or happy with themselves even if their life was difficult but you can see it in their lines they are not lines of anger or bitten they kind of lines of experience and journey, but not… I can definitely see that in older people who can tell what kind of life they've had.

What is your favourite quote?

I can only think of Hear me roar

What is it?

Hear me roar. I am woman, hear me roar. That's but um… we are strong. We are. We are stronger than look, society's given us credit for really..

Thank you, thank you for sharing it. It was great!

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